Chapter 12 Conclusions

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What you have read in this book is probably different from anything you have ever believed about your body and its functions. My hope is that, on some level at least, parts of it make some sense to you. I can assure you everything in this book has been suggested by some test or research somewhere. See if you can't say to yourself that you are willing to try each suggestion, if for no other reason than you don't see how it can do any harm. Then try, try the whole thing by trying every little detail. Only after you have tried something, do you have the right to say with authority that it is not for you.

Table of Contents
Forward
Chapter 1: Understanding Cancer
Chapter 2: Initial Approach
Chapter 3: Medical Treatments
Chapter 4: Quiz
Chapter 5: Mental Attitude
Chapter 6: Physician-Patient Exercise
Chapter 7: Self-Help Exercise
Chapter 8: Prayer
Chapter 9: Smoking
Chapter 10: Pain Relief
Chapter 11: Diet
Chapter 12: Conclusion
Chapter 13: 25 Most Frequently Asked ?s
Chapter 14: Checklist
Sometimes 2 plus 2 equals 5 or 6 or 7. Take a tiny acorn, some dirt, water and sunshine. Each of these is an innocuous little thing on its own, but add them all together and give them some time and you have a magnificent gigantic oak tree.

Maybe some ideas don't work too well on their own, but when done in conjunction with something else, you have a winner. And isn't that what it is all about - having a winner? Does it really make that much difference how you get there? If you do everything and you get well, then and only then can you afford the luxury of looking back and trying to decide which factors were influential in your recovery.

This book would not be complete without at least a mention of luck. It is one of the five factors to which I attribute my cure. The fact that my tumor formed around a nerve in my shoulder and hurt so much, forcing me back to physicians repeatedly, in spite of assurances that it was not cancer, was luck, pure and simple. Of course, I could look at the negative side of things and say that finding the first two doctors who wrongly diagnosed it was "bad luck" because it stole precious time. What would that get me? It would make me nervous and upset, wasting valuable energy thinking negative thoughts. Concentrate on the positive and get on in your fight against cancer.

If the grass is greener on the other side of the street, is that truly luck? Or did our neighbor do all those little things that we thought were too unpleasant or didn't matter that much. The harder you work, the luckier you get. If you want to have good luck in getting rid of your cancer, apply yourself and work for it. Nothing worthwhile comes easily.

A young woman called, telling me her mother was dying of cancer, refusing all medical treatments and even denying that she had cancer. Her father would not discuss it with anyone. But this young woman said she knew her mother would make it because she believed a miracle would happen. It was my opinion that miracles or luck don't just happen, you have to make them happen. It is hard work that will give her mother a chance. She must find competent psychological assistance to convince her mother of the problem and to do everything in her power to overcome it, and then maybe a miracle is possible.

The purpose of this is not to instill guilt in anyone. Everyone cannot beat cancer, no matter how hard they try. In trying to bring about your own luck, you are kept busy working which, in itself, provides you a better quality of life, and maybe you can succeed.

Harold Benjamin, founder of the Wellness Community stated in the Los Angeles Times, "Listen, when I first started the Wellness group, everybody said, 'Don't give them false hope,' and for a while I really gave that some credence. But you know what? There's no such thing as false hope. If we told them, 'If you do certain things, you'll get better, guaranteed,' that would be either stupidity or fraud. But if 1 out of 500 people get well, is it unreasonable to hope you'll be that one person? Not to me it isn't."

"Hope is an essential part of the will to live," states Dr. Ernest Rosenbaum in his book, "Living with Cancer". "Hope can be maintained as long as there is even a remote chance for survival. It is kindled and nurtured by even minor improvements and is maintained when crises or reversals persist by the positive attitudes of family, friends, and the health support team. Primarily, though, hope will come from within you, if you are willing to do everything you can do to improve your health and if you are willing to fight for your life."

Dr. Lewis Thomas, chancelor of Memorial Sloan-Kettering states, "From time to time patients turn up with advanced cancer, beyond possibility of cure...the patient is sent home to die, only to turn up again ten years later free of disease and in good health. There are now several hundred such cases in world scientific literature, and no one doubts the validity of the observations."

At the dedication of the R.A. Bloch International Cancer Information Center in Bethesda, Md. in 1983, I stated, "Having been told I was terminal from lung cancer and subsequently cured by top physicians, I as much as anyone appreciate the fact that it is doctors and knowledge that cure cancer, not brick and mortar. Over one half of the cases of cancer that were untreatable when a young doctor completed medical school only 10 years ago are today curable to some degree. Tremendous strides are being made continuously in the treatment of various types of cancer. It is obvious that some people are dying, not because there is no treatment for their cancer, but because their doctor is unaware of the latest and best treatments. It is Annette's and my hope that this building will be the catalyst to disseminating state-of-the-art information to the physicians of the world to enable them to improve the quality and quantity of life for every cancer patient."

Being told you have cancer is like being hit by a truck. In a few seconds, the course of your life is altered. Shock! Fear! Guilt! Anger! Bewilderment! These are reactions of many cancer patients when told they have cancer. You should do everything possible to maximize your chances of beating cancer. Following are a few suggestions:

  1. The fact that you have cancer cannot be changed. Right now is the most important time in decision-making - at the very beginning - when numerous alternatives may be open to you.
  2. As a cancer patient, you must be an activist. You must become a partner with your doctor. Understand everything that is being suggested and why. Ask questions. Educate yourself on your specific type of cancer. Get all the information you can from the Cancer Information Service and visit a medical library. So much successful research is being accomplished daily that you may find a clue to a potential treatment.
  3. Demand to know all the alternatives. If you make a decision to go ahead with a treatment without sufficient testing or a qualified second opinion, you may be limiting the possibility of other therapies right from the start. Often, unless you remain calm and in control, a decision is made for you by circumstances that will take it out of your control. Learning all you can about your case and the alternatives means you can control the way your illness is handled.
  4. For all serious cancers, a second opinion from a board certified oncologist is an absolute must before submitting to any treatment of any kind. Requesting a second opinion does not mean the diagnosis you were given is not correct or that the suggested treatment is not the best. It is only to say that you deserve the right to have the doctor's diagnosis confirmed and optional treatments explored and explained to you. At least, it will afford you peace of mind in knowing that everything your original doctor told you is correct.
  5. Death and cancer are no longer synonymous. Most people can be successfully treated by established medical treatments. Ignore unproven "easy" methods which promise cures by people who purport to be supressed by the medical profession. Rely on established medical treatments plus supplemental suggestions as outlined in this book and stay far away from alternative therapies in lieu of orthodox medicine.
  6. Most people want to know their odds of cure. Remember, you are not a statistic, you are a single human being. You may have better family support; you may have better medical attention; you may have a stronger desire to live; you may have a more positive outlook; you may be willing to become more involved, etc., etc. etc. Statistics can be fun to play with, but they are no more than averages. If you recover, your chances are 100%. If you don't, they are zero. There is no type of cancer from which some people have not recovered. Make up your mind that you are going to do everything in your power to be one of these and forget about the rest.
  7. You, as a cancer patient, are a consumer. As a consumer, you have the right to ask questions and to expect answers in terms you can understand. Doctors often seem so busy that a patient feels guilty and apologetic for taking up their time. Keep a running list of questions for your doctor and go over each one with him. By taking an active interest in your case, you will be showing your doctor you have joined him in the fight against your cancer.
  8. Always have a family member or friend with you when discussing your case with your doctor. This reduces the possibility of misunderstanding and eliminated the need for repetition. There is also the therapeutic value of treating the family as a unit.
  9. Be certain you differentiate between the possible and probable side effects of your proposed treatment. Your doctors must explain all the possible side effects to you, but request that the probable effects be enumerated. You will find that of the many possible things that could happen, very few actually should happen. Also, some patients mistakenly interpret these side effects as their cancer worsening, when in reality they are the normal effects of their treatments and their cancer is probably getting better.
  10. Expect some degree of depression. Cancer is a serious illness. Many of the treatments are depressants. "Down days" will occur from time to time. Plan on ways of coping with them. Call a friend. Take a walk. Do something you really enjoy.
  11. Throughout your cancer treatment, maintain as normal a life as possible. Set goals and have someone or something to live for. You will feel much better about yourself and it will help you cope with your treatment.

 

Not minimizing the pain, stress and fear that accompany cancer and its treatment, it is a fact that everything does not necessarily have to be negative. It is possible that through this illness you can learn to live a better and fuller life.

Dr. Lewis Thomas, chancelor of Memorial Sloan-Kettering, foresees "the end of cancer before the century is over. It could begin to fall into place at any time, starting next year, or even next week."

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